When our third baby was born, people started to raise their eyebrows just a bit. I heard a few comments about “knowing what causes that.”
Then I got pregnant with our fourth baby. Because we had three boys, people just assumed that we were trying for a girl. That wasn’t actually the case, but surprisingly, we “got our girl”. And then I became pregnant with baby number five.
That baffled a lot of people. Why in the world would we have a fifth baby when we already had both boys and a girl?
Meanwhile, I wonder the total opposite. Why do people consider kids a collectible item? I don’t have babies because I’m trying to get a specific type of child. I have a big family for so many better reasons. In fact, I’ll list them for you now.
Here are the 10 Best Reasons I Have a Big Family
1. Life is Never Boring.
Ok, so even big families have days when they are a bit bored. But there is nearly always something to do or someone to hang out with. And the house will rarely (never) be too quiet. Even on rainy days, someone will come up with a new idea to try.
You have teams available anytime you want to play basketball, catch, or monkey in the middle. No need to recruit other children! But if you want to add other kids, someone usually has a buddy over anyway.
By the time you get to the third kid you are starting to figure out how to parent. Why let that go to waste?
You can only spend so much time hiding in the closet with a candy bar, because there is always someone running through the room. Plus they tend to descend on the junk food the instant you bring it home from the store like a flock of locusts. (Locusts come in flocks, right? Herds?)
5. Cheaper With Each Use.
Spread the use of those items that don’t get used for very long across several kids. If you consider how many times you get to reuse the baby bathtub, swing, crib, and then later books, ball equipment, etc. those kids that follow baby #1 are way cheaper.
And even if you do get rid of things or suddenly, say, have a girl after you’ve saved up 3 boys’ worth of stuff, that’s ok, because…
You know a lot of other moms who will probably give you stuff they are done with. After all, you already have older kids and that means more chances to meet moms that are in the trenches with you.
7. More Chances at Mom Friends.
On the other hand, if the group of moms that have children the same age as child #2 are awful, you have more chances to meet other moms of differently aged kids! (Just a random example…the Moms of 10 year olds I know rock!)
8. Watch and Learn.
Younger kids are usually a little easier to raise, because they are watching the older siblings and learning from them. I don’t mean that in the “hey kid number 1, raise this baby for me” way, but more in a child led “Wow, my big brother is so awesome and I want to do everything he does!” kind of way. (Warning: this works for bad role modeling as well as good…)
If you let the kids get bored, they will start to get creative. And soon, one will feed off of what the other is doing. Before you know it, they have invented a whole new board game based on Legos and you’re researching how to get them on Shark Tank.
10. Lifelong Family.
When your children grow and become adults, they will have many people to lean on when they need help or support. You aren’t just growing a baby, you’re creating and raising a human being that will (God willing) live and create a whole life of their own. You have another chance to let your heart run around outside of your body forever. It’s risky and chaotic and totally awesome.
Yes, I Have a Big Family…and I Wouldn’t Change a Thing!
Life in a big family is a lot of fun. If you only have babies to collect both kinds, you’re missing out.
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