Inside: If you’ve got a big family, you need to follow large family blogs full of advice and support. Here’s the perfect list with just what you need!
It’s a funny irony, but mothering a large family can be a lonely feeling. It’s just not as popular as it once was to have a pile of kids. So finding people who can relate to your struggles can be…well, a struggle!
We sometimes hesitate to talk about our problems while raising our big family. Asking for advice or complaining when life gets hard feels like a privilege reserved for moms of 2.3 kids.
Even if you have people that you can open up with (no criticisms with your BFF!), there are still times you wish you had another perspective.
Inside: Tons of tried and true easy meals for large families. Make meal time less of a chore!
Waaaaay back in the day, I was a young girl in 4-H. My goal was to take every single cooking project. I did well enough to compete at the state level more than once, and even won an “Outstanding of the Day” award there for my bread. Which I probably work into more conversations than I should.
To this day I maintain that I learned more usable life skills in 4-H than I did from my school. Which may or may not be true, I guess. After all, I’m using the writing abilities I got from school right now.
Anyway, I have always enjoyed cooking and baking. But those competitions are a lot different from creating a meal night after night. Especially when you’re cooking for a large family.
Back when I only had two babies (16 months apart), I was just winging it. At that stage, aren’t we all? I mean, you have a baby, the nurses help you out for a couple of days, and then they send you home without any grown ups to make sure you’re doing it right.
If you’re lucky, you have family members to lean on. (Or call every 20 minutes to ask what you should do next. Not that I’d do anything like that.)
Slowly time goes by. Eventually you’re able to get longer stretches of sleep. You might have more babies. And after a while, something clicks. You learn to let go of unimportant things, and cling tightly to ideas that are proven winners.
My sophomore year, I walked into my English class, plopped my books on a desk, and took a seat. I was feeling more confident than I had as a scared freshman, so my first day of school was already off to a better start.
I was wearing my “no strike” t-shirt to display my annoyance at the Major League Baseball strike happening at the time. When I looked over, I noticed the guy sitting next to me wearing a similar shirt. Obviously, I had to strike up a conversation.
I thought he was a cool guy. Clearly he had good taste if he loved the best sport ever created as much as I did. He liked the fact that I could quote baseball stats like any guy in the class.
Little did I know, that friendship would later develop into a relationship. That would eventually lead to a marriage and five kids. And it began our big family story.
As a Mom of 5 kids, I know how to pinch a penny. We have a smaller home (with just one bathroom), which in some ways is really nice. Less to clean and keep up with. And best of all, we don’t find ourselves house poor. (Who wants to send all their hard earned money to the mortgage company?)
All of that might be true, but you can bet that I still dream about what it would be like to have a spacious large family home. And Mama, you sometimes dream about those things, too!
Today let’s explore what some large family homes and put some new ideas into our dream files. And who knows? Some of these pictures might even inspire ideas that you can use today.
What’s the magic number of kids a family needs to meet the large family definition? When people make comments about you having your hands full? (Or remarks too rude to put into print?)
Is it when your grocery bill doubles, or when you have to buy a bigger car? Maybe when networks contact you with a pitch for a reality tv show?
There’s no definitive answer to what number of children makes a family reach “large family status”. But that doesn’t stop people from making an educated guess.
Let’s look at some stats, some facts, and some real world experiences of large families.