Inside: The importance of sports in life go well beyond the foul lines of the field. Forget about scores and statistics…there are important lessons to be learned!
I held my breath. The ball was headed towards short stop, and we needed a good play to end the inning. I knew it would take a spectacular move for my son to make the play, but he’d done it before. But it wasn’t meant to be this time. The ball bounced off of his shoe and headed out to left field.
He was clearly aggravated, but he ran to catch the cut off throw. And he finished the play. I was relieved to see his teammate walk over and give him a quick pat on the back. Our third baseman had a knack for using just the right words to bring our son back to calm so he could get back to the game.
Our family is stacked with baseball lovers. But for us, the importance of sports in life isn’t about winning or playing at a professional level. It’s really about the strong lessons they take away from the field.
The key here is letting your kids learn these lessons. It’s tempting as parents to want to save them from their feelings. But if you let them learn how to deal on their own, they’ll be better for it.
The Importance of Sports In Life: 5 Lessons Kids Can Learn
Disappointment
I’ve talked before about how and why we don’t save our children from disappointment. Sports gives them another opportunity to practice the skills of dealing with disappointment.
Whether it’s striking out, losing a tough game, or dealing with an ump who made a bad call, there are lots of chances to experience disappointment in sports.
It’s so important for kids to be allowed to manage the emotions and behaviors of handling disappointment in smaller things like these. Later in life, they will face disappointment in much larger matters. We want them to be familiar with the feeling of disappointment, so that they have some experience managing it.
Let them feel disappointment, and don’t bend over backwards to fix things for them. Instead, give them a safe place to work through those emotions.
Grace in Victory
On the other hand, sports also offers plenty of chances to manage victory. Winning the big game, hitting a homerun, striking out the side…There are lots of chances for a kid to feel great. And they should feel that satisfying sense of accomplishment that comes as a result of hard work and proper practice.
But that’s another emotion that they can learn to deal with properly. We want our kids to be gracious in victory as well as defeat. We certainly want them to be proud of themselves for a job well done. But we want them to learn to temper that a bit. There’s no need to show off or overdo your celebration.
Handle victory with grace.
Teamwork
This is such a big lesson! Most jobs that our kids will have as adults require a certain amount of teamwork. You probably have to deal with difficult personalities, different experience or skill levels, as well as colleagues you enjoy working with (though they can be distracting sometimes!). Your child will one day have the same experience.
Sports offer kids a hands on way to experience this. Particularly team sports such as baseball, basketball, football, and soccer.
The team must work together to accomplish their goals. Not everyone will have the same skill set. Not everyone will be as willing to work as hard as you towards the goal.
It can be frustrating to bring so many different personalities on the same field together. Sports gives kids a chance to learn how to deal with that frustration, and problem solving abilities that will serve them for years.
Empathy
Not long ago, one of our teams played a game and defeated the other team so soundly that the game was called off early. (There was no mathematical chance for the other team to win.)
After the game, my son admitted that it wasn’t fun to win that way. He felt badly for the other team. His own team had been on the losing side of games like this before, and he knew it didn’t feel very good.
I want my kids to feel proud of themselves when they win a game and do their job well. But I loved the fact that he could wear the shoes of even his opponents.
Other ways that kids can learn empathy is by bringing up a teammate who is feeling down after making an error.
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Perseverance
Is there anything better than seeing your child finally succeed at that thing that they’ve struggled with for ages? Maybe, but it’s a short list.
And once your kid feels that amazing sense of accomplishment after finally succeeding after trying and trying again, they’ll want to keep that feeling coming for the rest of their life.
The importance of sports in life goes well beyond the score or even personal stats.
If you want a bonus lesson, I’d add the friendships that are forged between teammates that have learned these important life lessons together. That’s a bond that brings a smile to Mama’s face every time!
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Do your kids play organized sports? What do you like or dislike about it?
This is great, Jamie. I love that you included disappointment. We live in this culture where “everybody is a winner” and “everybody gets a trophy.” Unfortunately, this isn’t how life really works. There are winners and losers. It’s so important for our kids to learn this when we are there to help them walk through the experience and learn how to respond to defeat.
I completely agree! I have to stop myself from making things better for them sometimes, because I know in the long run it will serve them well to know how to deal with disappointment.
I played a lot of sports growing up even though I wasn’t a particularly good athlete. It got me active, I got to be part of a team, and I experienced not being very good at basketball, even though I loved it. School was very easy for me, so I think it was important to have to work hard at something even if I was never going to be gifted at it. One of the things that has me concerned about sports today is that kids specialize so early and from talking to other parents, it seems kids are kind of pressured to drop sports they aren’t good at once they start getting older. There are so many other benefits!
My daughter has shown very little interest in team sports, although I think we may be able to get her interested in competitive swimming. On the other hand, she loves her theater class, which gives a lot of the same benefits: teamwork, hard work, disappointment (when she doesn’t get the role she wants), victory (when she does).
Teamwork is pretty big. I always felt that challenge in sports growing up and today at work. It’s difficult because people on your team have different skill sets. It’s a constant balance of doing your part, curbing frustration at those who suck and maintaining a good attitude through all of it.
Awesome! I feel like sometimes we try to protect our kids too much, everything you said is true. They can’t adult if we don’t let them learn.
Oh, this is good! I always have allowed my kids to battle their own and only get involved if there is a dire need. Kids absolutely need to learn the lessons of life and they need to know them before they are adults!
It’s so good to let them learn what they can on their own. Thanks for reading!
Going to add being resourceful to that. Sometimes things breakdown and you need to improvise, that is something big to be learned.
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That’s a great one!
This is great! I’m about to be a sports mom. We just signed Robert up for his first soccer camp. So excited!
That’s so exciting! I love seeing the little beginners learn to play. They are always adorable!
We are just now starting to enter into the sports season for our children. These points are so true. It can be a transition as they are learning them, but so helpful in almost every area of their life! Thanks for sharing at #FFBH 🙂
You are so right! Playing sports definitely helps instill lessons children will carry with them throughout their entire lives. It is so important to foster these ideals at an early age, and playing sports is a healthy, fun way of doing so! Great points here! Thanks so much for sharing!
Jamie we will definitely follow your idea. we all are always focus on learn from books not from sports.
Hi Jamie,
I agree completely. By playing sports kids learn so much. Team spirit, how to work together…
Love your blog, keep up with good work!