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4 Tips for Fighting Discontentment

4 Tips for Fighting Discontentment

4 Tips for Fighting Discontentment

“If my kids ask me for a new app for their Kindle Fires one more time, I’m going to blow a gasket!  They just got one yesterday and they don’t even appreciate it.”  -me

Then two minutes later I find myself staring longingly at a beautiful Pinterest kitchen.

A bit of a paradox, huh?  The struggle is real.

Humans have wrestled with discontentment for decades (centuries? millennia?).  But with the internet shrinking the world into the palm of your hand, it makes the struggle of fighting discontentment that much harder for all of us.

So here are four tips for helping yourself out of a discontentment rut.

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1.  Be grateful

When I catch myself slipping into discontent, I try to remember how much I already have to be grateful for.

  • Those kids sometimes make me want to blow a gasket…but I have a beautiful family in pretty good health.
  • We have enough food to eat (even treats we don’t really need!).
  • We have plenty of goats.
  • We live in a wonderful neighborhood with great friends and family close by.

I could easily come up with a long list of things to be grateful for.  Your list is probably pretty similar.

As a bonus, list these things out together as a family.  Challenge each person to come up with one or two things to be thankful for each day.

2.  Get Unbored

Sometimes the reason we are not content is because we are just bored.  We have too much free time and we imagine that if we only had what she has our life would be so different!  Discontentment is often a craving for the rush of enjoying something new and different.

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But we don’t have to buy the latest app for our tablets or have the perfect sofa to get that rush.  Look up ways to upcycle items you already have.  Challenge yourself to learn something new via Youtube or by getting books from your local library.  Instead of zapping a frozen meal, try to figure out how your ancestors would have prepared their food.

3.  Distraction

Sometimes when I feel discontented, I try to reconnect with a hobby I used to love but no longer do much anymore (like playing my flute!).  Or I try to work on a project that will give me a sense of satisfaction.

Even cleaning and reorganizing a room that has been making you crazy for a while can give you a great sense of accomplishment.  It’s usually enough to keep my mind off of the desire for something new.

4.  Recognize Hedonic Adaptation

I first learned about this on the Mr. Money Mustache blog (fair warning, he does use strong language!).  Hedonic adaptation is the tendency for us to quickly adapt to new things and come to expect them rather than appreciate them.

Take cars, for example.  Imagine how excited the first people were to own and use a car.  Suddenly that trip that took hours before was now cut in half.

Now imagine yourself today (assuming you drive a car).  When you climb in your car, do you really appreciate the fact that you are using this fascinating machine that is going to transport you from your home to your destination in a fairly short time?  Like me, you are probably so busy wondering if you remembered everything that you don’t appreciate it at all.

You can try to appreciate things more by removing some of the comfort from your life, so that when you reintroduce it you appreciate it more.

  • Rather than driving your car, take a bike ride.
  • Turn off your air conditioning or heat for a while.  (Or adjust the temperature so it’s not perfectly comfortable.)
  • Use no electricity for a certain amount of time.

For more struggle on resisting hedonic adaptation, click here.

These tips will help you and your family find contentment in the many blessings you already enjoy.

What are your best ways for fighting discontentment?

 

The Best Tips for Buying Meat in Bulk to Save Money

The Best Tips for Buying Meat in Bulk to Save Money

The Best Tips for Buying Meat in Bulk to Save Money

Tons of tips for buying meat in bulk that work for nearly any budget! Save money on the ever rising cost of groceries.

When you’re trying to save money, the first place in the budget that most people attack is food.  That’s because you have more control over that area, and you can see immediate results.

There are so many different ways to save money at the grocery store.  But have you ever considered feeding your family without doing traditional grocery shopping?

Let’s talk about some creative ways to save on meat.

Wondering how to save money on meat purchases? Buying meat takes up a big portion of the grocery budget. Here's how to put some of that cash back into your wallet.

Tips for Buying Meat In Bulk At the Grocery Store

Go meatless (or less meat)

One great way to save money is to have meatless meals.  No, this idea isn’t going to work for everyone.  You might have picky eaters, football players who need to bulk up, or spouses that aren’t interested in the idea.

It took a while to convince my own family to go meatless just once per week.  But once they realized that you can have some great tasting meals even without it, they were in.

If you need some ideas to help you get your family on board with the idea of having meatless (or less meat) meals every once in a while, check out this post for tips.

Saving on meat

Saving on meat

Stock up on food when it’s at its best price.  If your freezer is empty, buy the cheapest cuts of meat for a month and try to round out your meals with beans as much as possible.

Instead of boneless skinless chicken breasts, buy whole chickens.  Rather than the best burger, get something with a higher fat content and rinse the fat from it after cooking.  (You can return it to the heat after rinsing to keep it tasting great.)  Or buy a cheaper cut of beef and grind your own burger at home.

You can make those cheaper cuts of meat more edible by marinating them over night before grilling or cooking them.  A crock pot will often make even tougher cuts fall apart.

Then, stock up on better cuts of meat as they hit their best sale prices.  I don’t like to pay more than $2 per pound for meat.  That’s tough to find, but it’s doable if you shop carefully.

You might find that your best price is double or triple my cost.  Once you learn what your best price point will be, you can become a better shopper.

Get ideas for other things you can buy in bulk!

Alternative Ideas for Buying Meat in Bulk

Are you willing to be a little more adventurous?  Try thinking outside the box (store) and consider these alternatives

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I’m still sad that Zaycon has gone out of business.  I’ll let you know when I find a good alternative!

Meat Packing Plants

If you want the deliciousness of a farm raised animal but don’t want to actually do the raising part, you can try a meat packing plant.  Do a search to find one in your area.

You may find that it’s a drive of an hour or more to get to the plant, but the savings on buying your meat in bulk will make the trip worthwhile.  And when you purchase in bulk, it’s not a trip you’ll have to make often.

The trouble with buying this way is that there is a large up front cost.  If you can find the initial money for half a hog, steer, lamb, goat, or other animal, then you can start saving up the monthly grocery money you would have spent on that meat for the next large purchase.

If you can’t swing the price on your own, ask around to see if a friend or family member is interested in sharing the cost with you to make it more affordable.

Some meat packers sell in smaller portions.  It’s worth a call to get information, even if you aren’t ready to order yet.

Saving on meat

Farmers

Similar to calling a meat packing plant, you can also call a farmer directly and order meat from them.  Not all farmers are online since they are busy in the fields rather than at a desk all day.   So be sure to look them up via white or yellow pages if Google doesn’t help.

Do It Yourself Types

Are you the type who doesn’t mind getting your hands dirty?  These tips might be for you!

Raise Your Own

If the thought of raising your own meat upsets you, you may want to skip this section.

Many people have enough space to raise their own backyard chickens or rabbits.  Both are an excellent source of homegrown meat that can feed your family for an affordable price.

You can call your county extension office for information on how to get started, or look for 4-H kids selling animals.  Kids in 4-H are not only a great source for getting animals, but also a wealth of information for beginners.  Most 4-H kids have worked very hard with their animals and are proud to tell you all about how to care for them.

Rabbits would be simpler and less noisy than chickens to care for.  It’s cliché, but rabbit meat really does taste like white chicken meat.  You can get a male and female for a very reasonable price and raise litters a few times per year.

Knowing where your food is coming from gives a great feeling of accomplishment.  Plus you’ll have peace of mind when there are so many recalls from the grocery stores these days.

Hunting

Also not for the faint of heart, hunting can be a great source of food.  You will want to learn the laws in your state and local area.

Sometimes the tag price for hunting an animal makes it uneconomical.  But often you can hunt for deer (for instance) at an affordable price and fill your freezer.

For even more savings, learn how to butcher your own animal.

Choose the method that works best for you, and you’ll find that saving on meat becomes easier the more you do it.

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What’s your favorite way to purchase meat?

 

Summer Meal Planning July Edition

Summer Meal Planning July Edition

I’m not really a lover of summer meal planning, but boy does it make life easier and more affordable.  So I begrudgingly do it.  And if I’m going to work on this anyway, why not share it with you?  Hopefully my ideas will make your planning a little easier in some way.

For us, summertime meal planning involves a lot of grilling out.  (Which means more meat and more expense.  So I also try to plan some frugal meals for our more relaxed days.)  If I didn’t own a grill (and we went without one for a few years, so we’ve definitely been there), I would likely bake these meals in the oven or fry them on the stove.

This meal plan is for two weeks worth of meals in our home.  I try to keep things simple and repeat our favorite meals.

Breakfast

  • cereal
  • cinnamon rolls
  • banana bread
  • baked oatmeal

Lunch

  • PB&J or lunchmeat sandwiches
  • leftovers
  • mac & cheese
  • quesadillas

Supper

  • grilled hamburgers and hot dogs x2
  • grilled brats and metts
  • grilled chicken breast x2
  • big salads
  • grilled pork chops
  • marinated baked chicken drumsticks
  • pizza x2
  • tacos x2
  • hamburger casserole
  • bbq hamburger sandwiches

Sides will include potatoes, noodles, or rice along with a big variety of chopped fresh veggies (yay for summer                     produce!)

Snacks and desserts

  • ice cream
  • strawberry shortcake
  • graham crackers
  • fresh fruit
  • rice cakes

So what’s on your summertime menu?  Leave a comment (or post your link if you blog) and help us reluctant meal planners out!

Shared at: Menu Plan Monday

Entertain the Family on the Cheap: Go Camping

Entertain the Family on the Cheap: Go Camping

Entertain the Family on the Cheap: Go Camping

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Sometimes it is difficult to find good entertainment for families of our size.  Even something as simple as movie tickets becomes very expensive very quickly when you are buying for so many people.

But there are still affordable ways to have fun as a family.  One activity our family especially enjoys is camping.

I realize that the great outdoors isn’t everyone’s idea of a good time, but camping offers such a variety of activities that it’s possible to make nearly everyone happy for at least part of the time.

Entertain the Family on the Cheap: Go Camping! These camping tips will help your family enjoy time together without spending a ton of cash. Frugal fun!

Accommodations

Many parks also offer a good variety of places to sleep.  You can rough it as much or as little as you like.  But do keep in mind that the cushier the accommodations, the pricier they get.

Tent camping is the most affordable of the choices.  Some families love the experience of camping in a tent.  If you don’t own one, you probably know someone you can borrow one or a few tents from.  Older kids like the freedom of sleeping in their own tents.

If you plan to tent camp regularly, I recommend investing in a good air mattress like this one (unless you really enjoy roughing it!).

camper cabinCamper Cabins  I almost hate to give this one away!  This is our favorite way to camp these days.

Many (not all) state parks offer camper cabins.  They book far in advance, so it is especially hard to get one for a weekend unless you are a great planner.

We like camper cabins because they come with beds (often 2 sets of bunk beds) and many have a/c and heat.  Some have small extras like small TVs or coffee pots.  They do not offer private bathrooms.

The main perk is that for a little more than the price of a tent spot, you don’t have to set up a tent, you have a sturdier structure in case of rain, and you get a bed to sleep on.  You still get the experiences of cooking your meals over the campfire ring and hanging out as a family in the great outdoors.

RV Rental  Many state parks are also beginning to offer RV rentals.  Rather than buying and hauling  your own RV to the park, you just come and stay in one that is already there.

Cushy cabins  Some state parks offer “resorts” where you can rent a nice cabin with all of the perks (private bathrooms, big screen TVs, etc.).  You might call this one “glamping” rather than camping.  If you don’t mind spending more of your budget on accommodations and you aren’t the kind to rough it, this might be your choice.

Food

Another reason to love camping is that you can just spend your usual grocery budget to feed the family while you are roughing it.

Some of our favorites are foil dinners, kabobs, grilled corn on the cob, roasted canned biscuits (using a dowel rod and roasted over the open flame), hot dogs on a stick, and (of course!) s’mores.

If those ideas aren’t enough to get your creative juices flowing, Pinterest abounds with creative ideas for good camp food.

Activities

When you plan out your trip, you’ll want to come up with some activities to keep everyone busy.  Camping doesn’t usually involve a lot of TV watching.

There are the obvious things like fishing and hiking.  But many state parks or KOAs offer extra things such as:

  • miniature golf
  • Frisbee golf
  • playgrounds
  • swimming
  • paddle boats
  • basketball
  • volleyball
  • tennis
  • and more!

Beyond that, our family really enjoys playing card games together.  The bigger kids enjoy preparing food while we’re camping, too.

Give camping a try!

You might find that your family thrives when they pitch in and help to make your camping experience an enjoyable time.  Our kids love being in the outdoors so much that they forget to beg for screen time.

Does your family have any fun camping traditions?  Or is camping definitely NOT your idea of entertainment?

Outside Activities for Tweens

Outside Activities for Tweens

Outside Activities for Tweens

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These days, it’s a never ending battle to get your kids to go outside and play rather than sitting inside and staring at some sort of gaming device or TV set.  Especially as they get older and become “too cool” to play outdoors.

I don’t have to preach to you about obesity rates in America, or the fact that kids aren’t interacting with one another like they used to.

Happily, as parents we have a certain amount of control over that.

I’m a firm believer in forcing the kids to go outside and shutting the door behind them.  And 90% of the time, they will find something fun to do out there.  But it’s a lot easier to talk them into going outside if they are looking forward to doing something special.

Younger kids are usually happy with a simple swing or slide.  But as they approach the age of 10 and 11, those things become less of a challenge and they begin looking for new things to try.

Here are some outside activities for tweens and older children to enjoy.

Older kids are ready for a new type of play.  Many of these suggestions contain a certain amount of risk, and you’ll want to be sure to supervise and teach your child ways to enjoy these activities safely.

I try to keep in mind that scrapes and bruises come with having kids, and it’s just another thing for them to learn from.  But we do what we can to avoid more serious injuries.

Here are some outside the box ideas for putting a new spin on toys they might already own.  Plus some ideas for adding to your yard for fun for the older crowd.

Obstacle Course

With a little guidance, the kids can set up their own obstacle course.  What toys do they already own to use?

  • Hula hoops, taped up pool noodles, or even old tires could be set up to run through or spread out to jump from one to the other.
  • A fallen tree could be a balance beam.
  • Sticks could be jumped over either lying on the ground or propped up on chairs for a bigger challenge.
  • Boxes or rocks could be placed just so to zig zag through.

Encourage them to race each other or themselves for their best time.  Or they could come up with the best creative way for getting through the course.

Rock Wall

Bonus points for having your kids help you build one.  There are tutorials for building one on the side of an existing shed or barn (even basement!), or you can make a free standing one.

These pegs have good reviews, although we haven’t tried them (yet).

Targets

Set up a range for some Nerf gun or BB gun competitions.

You can print out or draw an old fashioned paper target taped to a box.  Stack up cups to be knocked over.  Dangle old cans from a string tied to a stick or tree branch.

Your imagination is the limit!

Fort

A fort can be as much or as little expense and work as you desire.  You can encourage the kids to use objects they find around the house, yard, barn, or shed to create their own makeshift fort.

Or you can buy materials to build a more permanent structure (even a tree house).  Kids love to help and learn from building things with their parents!

As kids get older, this goes from being a fun way to “play house” to a place to have some privacy to read or spend some time on their own.

Trampoline

Kids never seem to tire of jumping on a trampoline.  From trying out different flips and jumps to jumping with a friend, there are so many ways to enjoy it.

This toy is probably not for moms with a weak stomach, but I think that one with a net can be a lot of fun for everyone.  Keep in mind that they still pose a certain risk, so you’ll want to set up some rules.

I recommend checking Craigslist or a Facebook yard sale for local deals, or watch for sales on Amazon or at your local stores.

Zipline

Also not for the faint of heart mother, a zipline is a lot of fun!

You will want to make sure you can find a good location in your yard with proper sized trees before you invest in this one.  Please take precautions such as helmets and seats since many broken bones result from ziplines each year.  (Ask me how I know.)

We own one similar to this zipline, but friends have told me it’s easier and cheaper to make one yourself.

Biking, Skateboarding, Scooters

Riding a bike can be fun and offers your child a certain amount of freedom.

Your child probably already owns a bike or scooter.  If he or she seems bored with it, challenge him or her to set goals for time or distance.  This little bike computer is cheap and adds a new twist to their play.

Sports

My boys can always amuse themselves with the basketball and hoop that we have in our driveway for an hour.  They also love to play kickball.

If your child doesn’t have a buddy to throw with, invest in a pitch back so they can play baseball without chasing it.

These tips will give your kids hours of outside fun.  Maybe they’ll even forget about screen time!

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I’d love to hear your suggestions for encouraging outside play, especially for older kids!  What makes your kids want to go outside?

The Medium Sized Family

The Medium Sized Family

The Medium Sized Family

As a mom to five kids, I am always looking for tips on how to better manage my time and, honestly, all of the “stuff” that comes with a family of our size.  “Our size” being a mom, a dad, and five kids.

I often thought of 4 kids as the big side of a small family, and 5 kids as the small side of a big family.  But truthfully, we are kind of a medium sized family.  We’re big enough to get stares when we go to a sit down restaurant (are they all yours?) and for rude comments when we announce another pregnancy (don’t you know what causes that?).  But too small for our own reality TV show.  Medium sized.  A happy medium.

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